Trust yourself and your wisdom

When I started dreaming of having my own business and soon quitting my job full-time, that was just that - a dream. I have no idea how or when it will happen. It was just nice to daydream and imagine how I'll spend my days - wake-up late, working on The Wealthy Pinay, preparing breakfast for my family. 

Daydreaming is a fun activity but going back to real-life is not. In the real world, I had to wake up at 5:30am, leave the house at 6 so I'll reach the office at 7am. Too early for my 8am time-in but the more time I delay my departure from home will result in getting stuck in horrible traffic that stressed me bigtime. I then leave the office at 5pm and if I'm lucky, I'll be home at 7pm. 

"I wish I could be a stay-at-home mom", was what I usually pray.
Again, no idea how it can happen. 
I got depressed. I cried for no apparent reason.
I'll cry in the office toilet. I'll cry inside the car.
I hated myself for feeling bad because, you know, I had a good job, very good salary, nice colleagues, supportive husband, life was good and yet here I am, ungrateful. It sucks!

But over time something in me changed. 

I allowed myself to dream without guilt.
I took control of my emotions rather than it controlling me.
I'm tired of being a victim (honestly, wala namang umaapi sa kin).
Instead, I decided to be the heroine of my own story. 

Looking back, I knew that my faith in Him helped me.

Things became more powerful when I started to trust myself too.
Can I achieve my dreams?
Do I have what it takes to start my own business?
Am I good enough to be successful?
Will I regret my decisions?

Many of us are riddled with self-doubt. It stems from our deep-rooted limiting belief that we're not good enough. And it doesn't matter if we are quite successful already, there will always be a tiny voice inside our head magnifying our fear.

I'm passionate about teaching on how to identify our limiting beliefs (which I call money blocks) and more importantly, how to deal with them. I'm very passionate about improving our money mindset because I've seen how a simple mindset shift can catapult someone to success. This is not only my experience but I've seen this time and time again with all my programs especially with Pinay Money Bootcamp. 

Can I tell you one simple mantra that you can say whenever you feel 'small' and doubtful? 

"I trust myself and my wisdom."

Don't let anyone makes you feel otherwise.
Don't let your past mistakes haunt you.
Never give others the power to make you feel small and insignificant.

Trust that you're making the right decisions.
Trust that you are a good person.
Trust that you have the wisdom to know what's right for you.
Trust that you can succeed.
Trust that everything will happen in His time.

Okayyyyyyy... now that I've said the 'life coach-y' advice, let me tell you some truth...

No one will believe in you (at first...)

May it be building a new business, quitting your permanent job to be a freelancer, writing your first book, being a social media star - anything that will require you to step up of your comfort zone will also freak out others. That's the freaking truth. Maybe your mom will be supportive. Maybe your best friend will tell you to go for it but the majority of people will give you random advice and comments that can turn out more negatively rather than encouraging.

And the most destructive comment is the one that has some iota of truth to it. 

"You might lose all your savings."
"It might not work."
"You're risking everything for something you're not sure."
"What if you fail?"

Because the reality is all their comments 'might' come true.
It's your thoughts and fears too!

I always tell the ladies in the bootcamp, if confronted with these money blocks, ask themselves these two questions:

  1. Is it absolutely true? (like, are you absolutely sure that the outcome is negative?)
  2. What would your life be without this block? (if you don't have this doubt or fear, what would your life be?)

Answering these questions will force you to reflect.

Would you really fail?
Will you absolutely lose everything to the point that you won't be able to recover? 
Chances are the answer is no.

And can you imagine not having the fear of regret or disappointment?
What could your life be if you don't have the fear of failure?
You would probably try everything and anything within your moral compass.

The thing is, the decision to trust yourself and your wisdom should come from within. You should be ready to try and take the risk.

And can I tell you something? The fact that you're reading this is actually a sign. You wouldn't even reach this part of this article if you weren't. 
The idea is already implanted in your brain. 
How exciting! Just like a plant, you just need to nurture it.

Avoid toxic and Debbie Downer peeps.
Surround yourself with people who dream like you.
Find a mentor.
Read books that can help you build your skills and mindset.
Stop overthinking and start doing.

I wish you courage. 

LynJoy TC

P.S. If you're looking for a group that is encouraging, supportive, and safe, then join the Pinay Money Mindset private Facebook community. In there, we can talk about our dreams, money, manifesting, business - all without shame or judgment. This is exclusive for Pinays and not because I'm racist or sexist but because I know that I can help Filipina women the most. Here is the link -->

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