A stupid decision

“Can I ask you a question, I hope you don’t mind. Why are you making a stupid decision?”

This is what the building manager asked us yesterday when we were vacating our apartment. I just laughed.

Sure, I can tell him about our desire to live a ‘free’ life, that we want financial independence, that we aspire to live the life we have imagined for ourselves, but then again what’s the use? I know that his mind is set that we’re making the stupidest decision of our lives.

Who knows, maybe next year we’re back again asking if you have a vacant apartment in this building!”, he then smiled. He wants to hear that he’s right and I gave it to him.

After announcing our plan to move back to the Philippines for good, Gibson and I have heard all kind of comments, feedback, and advice.

“So matututo na kayo magtipid?”
“Ang hirap ng buhay sa Pinas.”
“Lahat ng tao gusto umalis ng Pinas kayo gusto nyo bumalik.”
“Ikaw na lang mag stay dito Gibson, tapos pauwiin mo na lang family mo. Misis mo muna mag start ng business.”

Are these comments non-sense? No, not all. I know they are all valid feedback and advice coming from the person who said it. They stem from their own experiences and worries and I totally get it.

But they are THEIR fears.

We all know that we should learn from the mistakes of others but we must also be careful when others’ fears start to become our fears. Most of the people who gave us business advice never really experienced going into business. They have an idea of ‘patok na negosyo‘ but they haven’t tried doing it.

Those who give ‘relocation’ advice never really relocated back home. Their advice is based on their fear as they can’t imagine earning the same salary if they go back to the Philippines. What we don’t understand, we fear.


This is the only phrase I keep on repeating whenever someone asked me why I’m going home. I read this quote from Nora Roberts and it best describes my way of thinking now:

If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it.

If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.

If you don’t step forward, you’ll always be in the same place.

Nora Roberts

If you’re unhappy with your situation right now, there are 2 options. Either you change your perspective that the glass is half full rather than half empty OR do something and make the change.

And these 2 options always serve me well. When I was depressed in 2015 because I wanted to resign but feeling trapped that I can’t – I started my jewelry business. When I felt so down again because life is boring (don’t judge me) – I started blogging. Whenever I feel I’m not a good mother – I prepare my kids’ lunch boxes and try to be more hands-on with their everyday needs.

And every time I take actions, I feel in control of the situation. I don’t let ‘life’ take me whenever it wants me to be. Taking control of our emotions, mindset and actions are very empowering.

What’s new in my life nowadays?

Well, as I mentioned earlier, we just moved out of our apartment yesterday which has been our home for the past 8 years. Gibson posted this on his Facebook account and I can totally relate to it.

Mixed emotions leaving our UAE home

My SIL and BIL are very generous to let us stay in their home for a month before we fly back to the Philippines. We’re actually ready to go (sold our cars, returned our apartment, closed all utilities, etc.). We’re just waiting for our kids’ exams to be completed and then we’ll fly.

It’s once we arrive that gives me jitters. We have to:

  • Enroll the kids and make sure we have everything is ready (uniforms, books, school orientation, etc.)
  • Buy all the appliances, mattresses, dining table, etc.
  • Get sim cards, apply for credit cards/debit cards, driving license conversion
  • Unpack dozens of boxes (I’m dreading this! I need Marie Kondo!!!)

Our house construction is in the final finishing. Finally!

Konti na lang!

Apart from all the practicalities that we needed to complete after arrival, the most important task that me and my husband need to focus on is setting up our businesses.

All the things I mentioned earlier (school enrollment, buying appliances, driving license application, etc.) requires spending moolah and of course, money spent is money lost so we need to start rolling out our business plans, asap!

I’m trying to document everything that I’m going through and I promise to get back to you in a year or so to share the experience – the good, the bad and the ugly (I hope there’s no ugly). Hopefully, my journey will guide you on how to plan your own journey.

P.S. Is our decision to settle back to Philippines a stupid move? Are you planning to move back home too? I want to know!

Live The Life and Business You Have Imagined!

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